On November 2, in the middle of the night, we'll get on a plane to fly to Kenya for a 2 week break. We weren't planning on leaving but since we have a week off of school anyway in early November for a local holiday and we've been feeling in need of a vacation lately, we decided to do it. We're all looking forward to no school for 2 weeks (the boys are more excited than we are!), 20 degrees cooler, green grass, and seeing our friends and other teammates in Kenya. Our aim is to return refreshed and invigorated to finish the next 6 months of language study even stronger!
Wednesday, October 12, 2011
Yesterday I ate some pie. Unfortunately, it was humble pie. Now we all know that this kind of pie is homemade and the bigger the mistake, the bigger the humble pie you need to eat.
I could write out the story (which is rather unexciting) and I could give my justifications for being right (which are many in my mind) but it all comes down to realizing that I was acting appropriately in my own culture but extremely inappropriate in the Sudanese context. In fact, while I was aiming to be fair, honest, and firm, it was coming across as rude, spiteful, unfair, selfish, miserly, insolent, disrespectful, and downright mean. Did I mention that I ate a lot of pie?
I know this is a bit like starting out by saying, “Oh, You won’t believe what happened today!” or “I heard the funniest joke today!” but then not telling you but ask me in a few years and perhaps I’ll be ready to tell you then.
However, important reflections include:
- I, as the foreigner, should be ready and willing to accept the customs and common practices of the host culture even though they are, in some cases, illegal in my home country. For instance, every day we load our children into a 14 passenger school van that only has three seat belts for the 192 children stuffed into it.
- The only way for many people to survive in times of trouble is by coming together and sharing the cost. Imagine you have no insurance for your house, car, property, or business. Instead, your family, friends and neighbors are your insurance; that is how we operate here. As relatively wealthy foreigners, we will be asked to help out. A lot.
- Who is talking matters a lot more than what is being said. That means when older people are talking, it is time to be quiet. It also means having advocates in the community can get you out of some pretty sticky messes. They know how to smooth things over while you (by ‘you’, I mean ‘I’) would probably just create a bigger mess.
Hopefully no more pie for a while. -Eli
Saturday, October 08, 2011
Monday, October 03, 2011
With 4 months of intensive Arabic language study under my belt, I've had a chance to recognize some very valuable lessons I've learned along the way. Allow me to share them:
· Be careful! It’s really easy to start comparing yourselves to others who are catching on faster or moving faster. Don’t compare yourself!!!! Remember that people progress at different rates.
· Do the best you can with the time and energy you have and be content with that.
· When you hit a plateau or feel like you’re not really making any progress, remember that your brain is quickly filling with TONS of new information. It needs to make new channels to put all the new information and make sense of it all, so sometimes it gets “backed” up but it will be able to use the new information eventually.
· Learn to laugh at yourself and not get too bugged with your mistakes.
· Take every opportunity you can to practice. Try not to speak English as often as you can (with nationals.)
· Get plenty of sleep.
· Learn to NOT take comments people make personally. I am pretty sensitive and I’ve been offended or had my feelings hurt way too many times. I’m trying to practice letting those comments roll off my shoulders and many times I have to pray about it and ask God to change my attitude so it won’t get me down.
It's not easy learning a new language but boy is it worth it! I've learned so much more than a language.